This workshop is an experiential dive into the questions below. We will have a lesson and exercise to help you get more clear about your personal truth and how to express this in a healthy way. This workshop is very relevant for couples that are moving through difficult conversations and for individuals that want to embrace more personal autonomy.
Boundaries Part 2 we will address the following topics that add to the experience of Part 1:
- Claiming and sharing your wants/needs
- How to follow through with consequences of your boundaries
- Negotiating with others for the overlapping “YES”
- Deeper understanding and honoring of your truth
- Introduction to The Wheel of Consent by Dr Betty Martin (This tools is great for so many environments include the office and to the bedroom)
Learning healthy boundaries with ourselves and others is a foundational piece of relating that many overlook. In this workshop we will explore and learn about the different types of boundaries through experiential exercises. We will then identify and explore expressing needs and wants. The last component of this workshop will be learning and practicing consent.
In childhood development we are suppose to learn how to have boundaries to protect our vulnerabilities from people and situations that cannot honor our vulnerability. Boundaries let us know where we end and someone else begins. External and internal boundaries are both necessary. Limits lets us know where out capacity is in any given moment. When we do not honor our limits we can become over whelmed, resentful, and even physically ill.
Needs are what is necessary for survival. A child learns to take care of their needs from how their parents meet the child’s needs and how they model taking care of their own needs. Wants are not things that are really needed, but things we would like to have. In childhood we can learn functional or dysfunctional ways to get our needs and wants met.
Consent allows us to connect more to other’s humanity and to assure that are fully onboard for what you are asking of them. Consent culture is where asking for permission is normalized and the other person’s response is respected. We often only think of this in a sexual sitaiton, but it applies to any type of relationship. Consent is very powerful in getting more of what you want from your relationships without overstepping other’s boundaries.